A Beginner’s Guide to Buying Sex Toys: How to Choose What’s Right for You

Buying your first sex toy can feel both exciting and a little overwhelming. With so many different products available — from vibrators and dildos to couples’ toys and BDSM gear — it’s easy to get lost in the options. Whether you’re shopping solo or with a partner, this guide will help you understand the basics and make the right choice for your needs.

1. Know Your Purpose

Before diving into the world of adult toys, ask yourself:
– Are you looking for solo pleasure or something to spice up your relationship?
– Are you interested in internal or external stimulation?
– Do you want something discreet and beginner-friendly, or more advanced?

Clarifying your goal will make the decision process easier and more enjoyable.

2. Understand the Main Categories

Here’s a quick breakdown of common sex toy types:

– Vibrators: Great for clitoral, vaginal, anal, or full-body stimulation. Available in many shapes, sizes, and features.
– Dildos: Typically non-vibrating and designed for penetration. Come in silicone, glass, metal, and other materials.
– Couples’ Toys: Designed to be used during sex to enhance shared pleasure.
– Anal Toys: Include butt plugs, anal beads, and prostate massagers. Always choose toys with a flared base for safety.
– BDSM Accessories: From handcuffs and blindfolds to paddles and collars, these toys explore power play and kink.

3. Choose the Right Material

Look for body-safe, non-porous materials like:
– Medical-grade silicone (soft, easy to clean)
– Glass (firm, temperature-play friendly)
– Stainless steel (durable, hygienic)

Avoid jelly rubber or any toy with an overly strong chemical smell, as they may contain harmful ingredients.

4. Start Small and Simple

If you’re new, there’s no need to jump into complex toys.
Start with a small bullet vibrator, a beginner-friendly dildo, or a gentle anal plug. As you get more comfortable, you can experiment with different features like remote control, suction, or app connectivity.

5. Don’t Forget Lube

Lubrication makes everything smoother and more pleasurable.
Choose:
– Water-based lubes: Safe for all toys and easy to clean.
– Silicone-based lubes: Last longer but may not be compatible with silicone toys.

Never use oil-based products with latex condoms or silicone toys.

6. Prioritize Cleanliness

Hygiene is essential.
– Clean your toys before and after each use with warm water and mild soap or a proper toy cleaner.
– Store them in a clean, dry place, preferably in a fabric pouch or a dedicated box.

7. Trust Your Comfort and Curiosity

Buying a sex toy should be fun, empowering, and judgment-free.
Listen to your curiosity, respect your boundaries, and don’t be afraid to explore what gives you pleasure. There’s no one “right” way to use a toy — only what feels good and safe for you.

Final Thoughts

Your sexual well-being matters, and investing in the right toy can bring more confidence, joy, and intimacy to your life. Whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner, start at your own pace — and remember, pleasure is personal.

At Selove, we believe that everyone deserves safe, satisfying, and shame-free pleasure. Browse our hand-picked collection of beginner-friendly toys and discover what turns you on.